Why He Loves Us So?

Dr. Oyin
Jun 23, 2025
4 min read

Why Does God Love Me?

I can give you a short answer and a long one.

The short answer?

Because He does.

It might sound like when your mom used to say, "Because I said so." But let me explain the long answer.

Does God Really Love Me?

Many people ask:

Does God love me?
Can God love someone like me?
How do I know He still does?
Has He stopped loving me because of what I’ve done?

These questions often come from a place of deep pain, sin-consciousness, shame, or past trauma. To truly answer them, we must first understand the nature of God.

1 John 4:8 tells us: God is love.

That’s not just what He does—it’s who He is. He doesn’t just have love or show love. He is love. The verse before that even tells us He is the source of all love. Without Him, we wouldn’t know love at all.

God’s love is pure. It never wavers, never changes, never stops. There’s not a trace of hatred in Him toward people—not one iota.

So let me say it clearly:

God cannot not love you.

He cannot stop loving you.

He cannot hate you.

He cannot love you more or less based on your actions.

He is constant, and His love is unchanging—regardless of what you’ve done, are doing, or will do.

It’s Who He Is, Not What You Deserve

Let me use myself as an example: I am female. Being female is not something I have or do—it’s who I am. I may express my femininity in different ways, but I don’t give or show femaleness. I am female.

In the same way, God is love. He doesn’t decide whether or not to love you—it’s His nature.

So really, it’s not about you at all.

God doesn’t love you because you’re lovely. He loves you because He is love.

If God’s love for us were based on our behavior, He would have to change every time we changed. But He doesn’t change.

James 1:17 says there is no shadow of turning in Him.

And here’s something to consider: God holds all things together. If He ever changed, the world—the galaxies, the people, the animals, everything—would cease to exist. Do you really think He would risk all of creation… because of you?

No. He loves you because He is love.

That love doesn’t depend on your actions, beliefs, or level of faith. Whether or not you believe in Him, He still loves you. Whether you receive Him or reject Him, He still loves you.

Jesus: Proof of God’s Love

Look at Jesus. He died for the sins of the whole world, knowing many would still reject Him. That alone tells you this love is not based on our worthiness—it’s based on God’s character.

John 3:16 says: “God so loved the world…”That includes everyone—even those who rebelled against Him.

Jesus died over 2,000 years ago, for people who hadn’t even been born yet—including you. That’s the ultimate expression of love. God created a bridge to restore a relationship with us—and now it’s up to us to cross it.

You Can’t Earn It, So Don’t Try

Here’s something else to think about: God’s love is constant, regardless of what you do for Him. That’s why the position of your heart matters.

Are you doing things for God so He’ll love you? Or are you doing them because you love Him?

When you serve God to earn His love, you’ll always feel like you’re falling short. But when you understand His love is already yours, your actions become a joyful response—not an obligation.

What About God’s “Hatred”?

You might wonder: But doesn’t the Bible say God hates certain things?

Yes—He does hate sin (see Proverbs 6:16–19, Psalm 1:5).

But here’s the key: He hates sin because it separates us from Him, not because He hates you.

God is the enemy of sin, not of people. He did everything in Jesus to destroy sin—so He could have you back.

Grace Isn’t a License—It’s an Invitation

Some people take this message and say,"Well, if God loves me no matter what, why not just do whatever I want?"

Yes, God will still love you—but your response reveals the state of your heart.

A person led by the Holy Spirit will respond to God’s love by pursuing holiness—not out of fear, but out of love.

Let’s put it in human terms: In a healthy marriage, spouses care for each other not because they have to, but because they want to. But if one partner cheats repeatedly just because they know the other won’t leave, that’s not love—that’s abuse.

The same is true in our relationship with God. If we keep sinning just because we know He won’t stop loving us, we rob ourselves of the deep, rich intimacy we could have with Him. That’s self-sabotage.